Couples know that laughter is a superglue-like bonding experience, able to achieve intimacy and smooth over ruffled feathers with a single snort. Laughter in the context of love puts you at ease with one another. You can feel perfectly comfortable being ridiculously silly with one another, in ways you would never dream of with anyone else. Couples who frequently make each other laugh are blessed with long, happy marriages, and are envied more than any svelte Hollywood pair.
The best compliment Bill gave me was late one night after I had a horrible mom day at home with a young Kyra. I was grouchy and annoyed and a little ticked off that Bill was making me read an email that was forwarded to him. Blah, blah. I have no idea what was in the email, but I do know that I was laughing so hard that I was crying. Tears streaked down my checks as I tried to snort out what was so funny. Bill sat by laughing hysterically at ME, not the joke. I'm sure I even had to get up to go to the bathroom before I finished reading. After we both calmed down Bill said he knew it was funny and laughed when he first read it but, "everything is funnier with you, that's why I love you!" Aah, isn't that sweet?! Now you can envy Bill and I more than you do Brad and whomever.
Does this mean that I should just let the kids hash it out because eventually they will laugh about it?! I'm just kidding here, but it does amaze me when they are arguing one minute and rolling in laughter the next. Tasha is such a nut sometimes and Kyra is just a fun kid.
Families benefit from shared laughter as well. Siblings can become best friends. After all, it is hard to dislike a person that makes you laugh, even if that person is an irritating sibling you have often wanted to strangle in the past. It can only happen if you spend time talking and playing together. Reminiscing and laughing about the past has a way of soothing hurts and grudges, and cements those relationships into some of the strongest bonds we can experience in life.
I like to hear the funny stories that my friends tell. I smile when I think of my friend doing funky dances to make her kid laugh instead of yell. I laugh out loud when my friend calls to get something off her chest that is so ridiculous that only I will understand. I vent and complain, and then apologize and laugh. Bill noted once that I went "from 0-to-pissed off in .6 seconds" and that statement alone got us laughing so hard that he had to pull over so we wouldn't crash.
The article talks about the psychological benefits of laughter and points out that often it is real life interactions that are the most important. You don't need to spend hours at the comedy club, just some quality time laughing with people you love. As much as I like to have deep conversations with people, there are also times when I just need a good laugh...